Move us onto stable decorators

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The recent build refactors should have made it easier now to run our tests under both legacy decorators and stable decorators. That would allow us to pick back up #20507

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Much more progress in #20868

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The next actions here are

• update the PR to include typescript support for stable decorators and exercise it in a smokiest app.
• write the RFC for how people should transition