feat #3666 add optional exclude option for plugin onLoad and onResolve hooks

[sod]

This allows plugins that are very broadly applied to user code, to ignore files and folders it knows not to touch, like node_modules, static files or shared folders.

As the cost of calling a plugin is not 0, especially onResolve hooks, this could help improve performance of plugins.

See #3666

used like:

const myPlugin = {
  name: 'my-plugin',
  setup(build) {
    build.onResolve({ filter: /.js$/, exclude: /^(static|my-lib)\// }, args => {
    })
    build.onLoad({ filter: /.js$/, exclude: /\/node_modules\// }, args => {
    })
  }
}

the exclude is optional and the filter-only syntax stil works.

[sod]

@evanw whats your stance on this? Should I rebase, change something or drop? :)

[sod]

I consider no response as a decline. For the sake of not cluttering esbuild PR tab, I close this.

[DamienCassou]

I would need such a feature.