tls: add min/max protocol version options

[sam-github]

The existing secureProtocol option only allows setting the allowed
protocol to a specific version, or setting it to "all supported
versions". It also used obscure strings based on OpenSSL C API
functions. Directly setting the min or max is easier to use and explain.

This is a rework of tls: add min/max_version and their defaults from https://github.com/shigeki/node/commits/WIP_upgrade_openssl111_tls12_only onto master. The original conflicted with more recent commits to master, but while doing the docs for #24386 I realized it also broke #23814. I'm PRing this directly now because it doesn't have a dependency on OpenSSL 1.1.1. Getting it into master should make @shigeki 's work easier, and his openssl 1.1.1 branch shorter. Also, landing it will stop it from getting more conflicts.

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
• documentation is changed or added
• commit message follows commit guidelines